3 Ways to Stay the Course During Personal Growth
- Sep 25, 2019
- 4 min read
As children, we're natural risk-takers.
But as we get older and learn to fear failure, we start holding ourselves back and trying fewer new things.
This comes at a high cost to our tremendous potential for lifelong growth and transformation.
At some point in our life we realize that there is no learning without some difficulty and fumbling.
And if you want to keep on learning, you must keep on risking failure — all your life.
It’s as simple as that.
When we step outside of our comfort zone, we're taking a risk, and opening ourselves up to the possibility of stress and anxiety. We are leaving the familiar and we're not quite sure what will happen next.
So, to help you stay strong on your journey here's...
3 Ways to Stay the Course during Personal Growth
One of the books that has helped me stay the course during the ups and downs of personal growth is the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Have you read it? The four ways he suggests you navigate through life were so simple yet so powerful! So, of course my first two tips are from this book!
Let's begin!
Tip #1 Always do your Best
Keep your goals in mind and stay committed to moving towards the highest version of yourself.
Get clear on how you want to show up for yourself and your relationships and do your best everyday. People are watching you grow and seeing if it may be possible for themselves to. Sometimes this is friends or family, sometimes it is your children.
Focusing on my nutrition to improve my mental wellness enabled me to have a stronger sense of my authentic self. I gained clarity on how I wanted to live my life and confidence about how my thoughts and actions could help me get there.
Keep promises to yourself by sticking with your healthy habits. I have a habit tracker on my planner that helps me track the habits I am currently prioritizing.
Stay in motion (with movement that brings you joy) motion creates positive emotion.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be your personal best for YOU not external praise.
Tip #2 Don't Take Anything Personally
Maybe thanks to your personal development journey you now have more mental confidence and you are putting a halt to your people pleasing ways. You are not passively going with the flow of situations and people are starting to notice.
If you are becoming a different version of yourself… you are going to receive push back.
It can be hard to deal with the fact that there are people in your life right now that have enjoyed you being a less empowered version of yourself.
Maybe your role was to be the giver and they are the one to receive. Maybe they are the ones with strong opinions and they enjoyed you going along with whatever they have in mind. It can be hard to face that the truth that some people benefited from you playing small.
Being your true self is not always going to be easy. But you better believe you will quickly identify people that have a problem with it. Sometimes this is a partner, child, sibling, parent or BOTH. It can be painful to think that they are not rooting for your personal development.
Please don’t see this as anything to do with yourself and do not take it personal.
It is typically simply an eye opening reflection of who they are and the issues they carry.
Part of their own story that they may not be ready to explore or change.
Tip #3 Set Clear Boundaries
Have the courage to evaluate who and what you choose to surround yourself with.
How do you feel after you are with a certain person? Do you feel drained or energized?
Consider if people ask about your life OR are they mostly wanting you to ask about theirs? Do you support and encourage them to pursue their passions yet feel as if they do not support you? Is the relationship one-sided?
Do they truly want you to be the best version of yourself?
Or do they prefer a version that works for them?
How about the Social Media accounts you follow?
Be intentionally about the information you consume.
Regularly unfollow of follow accounts that align with the closer version of your highest self. You deserve to feel good and supported.
Boundaries are an act of self-love.
To protect your energy… It’s okay to not answer that call, It’s okay to want to be alone.
Boundaries can be challenging to hold when you are actively facing a conflict with someone… stay STRONG.
Exchange turmoil and pouring more gas on the fire with clear boundaries.
“I understand you are angry, when you are ready to talk instead of yell we can continue”
Practice this Affirmation: “I have boundaries with people who don’t support me wholeheartedly.”
Easier Said than Done, Right?
Personally, the information I shared in this post never came easy for me.
It wasn't until I targeted improving my mental wellness from a nutrition perspective that...
I finally had the inner confidence to take bold action and Always Do My Best
I felt emotionally balanced and it was easier to follow Don't Take Anything Personally
When the weight of constant overwhelm, anxiety and stress lifted I was able to shift my emotional energy towards Setting Clear Boundaries
Imagine how much you would step outside of your comfort zone and continue with consistent action with your goals if you felt empowered with a new mindset?
You deserve to be supported mentally and emotionally so you can continue to move towards the highest version of yourself. There will be some bumps along the way but imagine if you could have a smoother ride along your journey.
Let's connect if you want to feel this empowered too!
Leticia
“Life is often hard for two reasons: because you’re leaving your comfort zone, or because you’re staying in it.”
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